In this video, Dr. Daniel Fox explores the powerful cycle of relationship rupture and repair often seen in individuals with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders (BPD and NPD). You’ll learn how emotional wounds, shame, and fear of abandonment fuel patterns of destruction—and how genuine repair can begin. Whether you’re navigating a personal relationship or supporting someone through healing, this video offers clarity, compassion, and actionable insights.Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

Check out Dr. Fox’s online course:

www.bpdcourse.com

He has published several articles and books in these areas and is the author of:

BPD Guided Journal: Journal: Your Space to Release Intense Emotions, Nurture Self-Compassion, and Take Charge of Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: https://shorturl.at/Ta5Dj

The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
https://rb.gy/hdyqyy

Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrDanielFox
Dr. Fox’s website: http://www.drdfox.com/
Dr. Fox’s Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-complex-diagnosis
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdfox/
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Amazon Author’s Page: amazon.com/author/drfox

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00:00 – Intro: What Is Rupture and Repair?
01:22 – Why Relationships with BPD/NPD Are So Volatile
03:05 – The Role of Shame, Fear, and Abandonment
05:49 – Destruction Phase: Emotional Outbursts and Withdrawal
08:12 – Restoration Phase: Apologies, Idealization, and Reconnection
10:47 – Is It Real Repair or a Repeat Cycle?
13:33 – Tools for Breaking the Pattern
16:05 – When Repair Fails: Accepting Reality
18:26 – Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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ALL relationships face a similar set of hurdles. We all need to be equipped to get over the hurdles, so that our relationships don’t just survive, but thrive. Based on over 20+ years’ experience of working with countless couples, Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings share their observations of the 4 fundamental habits that all successful relationships exhibit. Dr Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings are co-founders of Soulmates Academy – an organisation on a mission to reduce relationship and family breakdown across the globe, by proactively educating people to develop strong relationship capability. As a key part of this vision for social change, they help organisations equip people to build healthy relationships at home so they can perform better at work, improve wellbeing and mental health, and achieve better work-life balance. As City professionals and entrepreneurs themselves, over the last 20+ years, Andrea & Jon have leveraged their first-hand experience of the inevitable relationship challenges of high-stress careers to help countless couples strengthen communication and relationship skills, overcome challenges and improve happiness. Andrea & Jon are recognised authorities on the subject of couple relationships and marriage, with numerous public speaking engagements and several TV and Radio appearances in the UK. Their book is due out soon. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

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